Today when the entire world is acting on amending and accepting the new changes in terms of Technology, Culture or what so ever, Woman settling down away from their Home Town travelling all the way alone, living in an completely new atmosphere has become more than common. In many cases, we manage to get an accommodation in a Ladies Hostel or live in a flat with couple of other ‘Woman’ friends. But, there are some other cases, where with the ‘new’ freedom that has come our way, with no nagging of parents, with no one ‘controlling’ our thoughts, we prefer taking a flat/room and staying alone.

Every time we see any news popping up in paper about single Woman being assaulted/raped/theft happened, we would think ‘Thank God, I am safe’. But no lady, you are definitely not. There is n number of eyes, watching you too.

Now, don’t mistake me. I am not against those entire Women who are staying alone. It is good to see today’s Women are independent, thinking out of the box, no qualms in staying alone and managing things. But, at times this so called ‘Thinking out of the Box’ might affect us negative. As such there is no guarantee for Human life, but even then we take all the care to protect ourselves. Well, there is no guarantee for Woman’s security as well, even then we are supposed to take all the care and secure ourselves from any negative. This is like a preventive medicine that is definitely better than cure.

These might help you to think better about your security;

• Think 100 times before speaking to a stranger, letting him/her know about you as a person, inviting them to your home when you are alone. Even it is a Group of a gang, that you have become friends with, you don’t know them personally since year’s right? Then it is better to be alone rather than ending up in a bad friendship. Just observe what the person’s intentions are when you are speaking to him/her. I bet on it, you will definitely find out.

• Late night parties, ‘just’ friends dropping you at home, night outs at friends place, going to a holiday without your letting your family know about the same, easily trusting others, clubbing and so on, one night stands, seem attractive and ‘in’, but say a big ‘NO’ for all these. You have come here, with the intention to study/work/make a career, then why all these diversions. I do agree that you have to chill for some time, but there are many other ways. You can watch a good movie at home, just visit some orphanage in the City you are living/if you have any of the relatives staying there, you can spend some time with them, read a book of your favorite jorner, you can explore the City at a safe time with the people you have been moving around from quiet a sometime, go shopping in all those well established malls, listen to your favorite music with a cup of good coffee… don’t you think these are more than enough to chill?

• Take good care of your security. Make sure you are thorough in securing all your valuables, bank statements and saving details, not to carry huge sum of money in your bag, keep all the details of debit/credit card pin numbers to yourself.

• Do not ignore of constantly being in communication with your parents. They are nagging; do not accept many changes in your life so easily, over protective, but lady, they are your parents and who else would think about your well being other than them?

These are some quick thoughts that I have mentioned to give you a start to think about yourself. If you have not thought about you, time to think and act, and if you are thinking about yourself, time to be more alert.

Wish you a Happy living ahead!

Sunayana Vinay Kumar