‘By chance either you or I get to know atleast a person known to us is in an extra marital affair, that’s it… this would be the topic of the day or sometimes even for a week. We end up talking about this, downsizing her character of being in another relationship despite being in a committed relationship, cheating on her committed partner, this kind of Woman being a black mark on the entire Woman hood, and finally we even decide to avoid that person how much ever possible. It is not that I am in favor of all those who are in an extra marital affair. But I ask how much we know about the reasons that made them get into such a relationship, despite of knowing the pros and corns? Chalo, let’s atleast try seeing this age old issue that has become most common amongst many people these days from the other side of the coin…
Do not see Woman as Goddess yaar, after all she is also a human being. Just like a man opts for an affair out of home, particularly when he is not happy with his committed partner and can neither get out of the same, has no other choice but to live with the same, but when your heart does not listen to your mind and refuses to accept the reality, when you start looking for a emotional support, that starts as friendship and ends up with an affair, similarly, women might also experience the same. the only difference is just about that thought prevailing in our society, ‘Whatever a Man does is correct and Woman need to simple let go these, unseen’.
Do you know why most of the people in relationship commit suicide? It is because of the basic tendency of our heart of not taking any kind of rejection. This is applicable in the scenario of committed relationship as well. The more you are ignored by your partner, the more you are under estimated by him, the more your self-respect is being hurt by him, the more your life becomes so very mechanical that your partner forgets to be a husband, the more are chances of getting involved with another person.
Yes, there is definitely guilt in a Woman’s heart when she is cheating on her partner. But, in many cases the desire and the wants and also the need of a emotional support dominates the ethics and this is one of the main reason of more and more extra marital affairs prevailing in our society today.
Not only the rejection from the partner, but, if there is a unhealthy atmosphere at home, nagging in – laws, partner being irresponsible in managing the family and Woman has to work for that family to survive, Woman not being treated as a human being, her interests not being valued, in the same of listening to what ever the partner and his family says, Woman being humiliated to the core, everything put together make Woman think nothing, but to get out of this atleast for some time and as a result this so called affairs outside home.
There are some cases, in which everything is perfect in life and your partner is a darling. You have no financial crises and all your interests are valued, even then if you are thinking about seeing someone else, then either you don’t love your partner or you are just going wherever your heart takes because you have a lot of time to waste in life… so, buck up!
Ekbaathtohhai.Whatever may be the reason, though your partner is the worst ever you can be, cheating on him is definitely unethical, forget about others, you are cheating your own self. If you are so very fed up with your committed relation, please have guts to let the people associated with you know the same and please get out of it, even before looking for a ‘Mr. Perfect’ in your life. if you want to maintain both relationships, then let me tell you, you are building the end of your happiness with your own hands. It’s about being valued in your own eyes and this can only happen when you value the ethics. So, you neither kill yourself nor do whatever your heart says, you be bold enough to do whatever is ‘correct’.
This is because at the end of the day, you should feel happy being ‘correct’ with yourself and your life!
SunayanaVinay Kumar
