The basic quality to identify a heart apart from it beating, is if you are hurt when you undergo a rejection, that too in a relationship. If yes, then be sure even you have a heart. How much ever brave we are, courage we possess, bold we could be and guts we show, when someone close to our heart comments us or rejects to start/continue a relationship with us, that is where we feel rejected and our heart cannot handle the same. But, we need to live with the situations and rejections rather than expecting the other person to come back to us. What to do?

Now that you have faced rejection and experienced it, learn to handle the same. And for this, you can try implementing the following measures;

Don’t run out of it: this is a age old practice that we follow while handling any situation, instead running out of the same, we face it. So, let’s implement the same in the scenario of handling rejection as well. Let’s not run out of those emotions, feeling of being rejected and a feeling of ‘I am not fit to be liked by anyone’. All your emotions and situations are passing cloud so even this kind of a mindset. Once we are out of the same, we would start thinking ‘what next’ and move on in our life. But be sure you don’t take any hasty decisions and quick steps that can cost you a lot sometimes your life. Just remember nothing is the end of a life, not relationship atleast.

Busy Bee: why do you want to live in a shell or stop everything else that was going on smooth in your life, just because your relationship did not work? if you believe every emotion has its part in your life, don’t let the other emotion or thought or work get disturbed because of something went wrong.  Despite of you being handling rejection, learn yourself to keep occupied with some work or the other, get busy in your daily routine, stop discussing about the past with your friends, shop for yourself, concentrate in grooming yourself better, what not you can do.

Be in his shoes: you can say, this is an optimistic way to deal a problem; still you can try and see once. Rather than being stuck in a thought of ‘why he did not accept me’, you can always think ‘her has his own reasons of doing so’. And always keep in mind, it is not that you are not correct for him so he has not chosen for you or vice versa, it could be he could not get connected with you or else has his own list of an ideal partner. Stop digging out the reasons and instead start loving yourself.

Most important, whatever happens in your life, never loose confidence and love in you. It is highly impossible for you to impress everyone you meet, just inculcate the same thought when you have been rejected. And just remember, ‘to get your kind of a job, you need to face many interviews and only then you would understand what you actually want’, the same statement would apply in the scenario of handling rejection as well. Now, how to fit these two situations is left up to your own ideology…

SunayanaVinay Kumar