Just like life is a mixture of all emotions, happiness and even mistakes and learning’s, so as our behavior. The only difference that changes our life style for a better is how we learn from our mistakes, inculcate that ‘discipline’ is us an pass on the same to the next generation as well.
Now, the challenge is how we do share our experiences and make our next generation adapt the discipline before they making the mistakes and learning from them…let us look at the affective ways of inculcating discipline in Children, as they are the lot who can learn anything and everything, just fast…
Do try to instill consistent rules, approaches, and even goals and rewards each day. Kids can find change or inconsistencies confusing, and may test limits or boundaries to see how far they can go with different adults. (Remember the saying, "If mom says no, then just go ask dad?) The motto may be cute on a shirt, but is nothing but trouble in a household where inconsistent rules exist.
Choose your path of dealing with children very carefully, but once you've picked a battle then a parent/adult MUST win. Always. Only address those issues that are truly important (safety is always a key battle) and let some things go. If possible, offer choices while still setting reasonable limits. But if an issue is important, experts indicate it's vital that a parent not cave and give in to a child, even "just this once." If you do this, then every time this issue comes up again, your child will know that you might change your mind.
If the behavior won't cause harm, then an effective disciplinary approach often involves praising good behavior and rewarding it through hugs, high-fives or special activities (like a trip to the park), while ignoring bad behavior. This is easier said than done, but a child will learn that good actions result in more positive attention and praise while bad behavior gains her nothing.
Kids often enjoy seeing a rise out of an adult; blowing your top can be interesting to watch and kids sometimes see your loss of control as a victory for them. Keep calm and in control, and if necessary, tell your child you're taking a brief "time out" to assess the situation and appropriate consequence before taking action. Kids will often take advantage of a frazzled, mad, or emotional adult; don't give them this opportunity. If you do mess up, learn from the experience, and take another measure to keep yourself calm, cool and collected the next time (and there will be one!).
When someone else is watching your child, be sure to communicate discipline style and request the caregiver adopt a similar fashion. Likewise, if you do not believe in a certain approach (like spanking or a time-out chair), be sure to indicate that to a babysitter or early education teacher as well. If checking out a new day care or pre-school, take time to ask about disciplinary approach. Many parents find that if they match their approach to what methods are used at a child's care setting, the results become more effective. The reason may be that kids respond to discipline tactics that are used with their peers.
Even parenting is an art dude!
